“You live like this, sheltered, in a delicate world, and you believe you are living. Then you read a book… or you take a trip… and you discover that you are not living, that you are hibernating. The symptoms of hibernating are easily detectable: first, restlessness. The second symptom (when hibernating becomes dangerous and might degenerate into death): absence of pleasure. That is all. It appears like an innocuous illness. Monotony, boredom, death. Millions live like this (or die like this) without knowing it. They work in offices. They drive a car. They picnic with their families. They raise children. And then some shock treatment takes place, a person, a book, a song, and it awakens them and saves them from death. Some never awaken.”
– Anaïs nin
“The role of the artist is exactly the same as the role of the lover. If I love you, I have to make you conscious of the things you don’t see.”
― James Baldwin
When people make a mistake and don’t have a good relationship with shame and guilt as healthy emotions that arise to inform us that we have done something wrong/of the next action to take, they opt out of taking responsibility/making amends and withdraw or/and project that energy outward, because it’s too much for them to carry. If shame is continuously internalized, it becomes a state of being which paralyzes a person and makes them strive for perfectionism/performance/routine behavior without deviation from the norm for fear of making a mistake/having to feel the compounded shame. When mistakes (which are normal and inevitable in daily life) are never admitted/corrected, but always covered up/projected outward as blame on something/somebody else, the individual gets stuck in a low vibrational fear-shame-guilt loop and lives in a perpetual inner turmoil. On the outside, they maintain a flawless respectable persona, but within they are riddled by the myriad of uncorrected past mistakes which grow into demons, fester and rot, blocking the natural mental/emotional flow. Thus we see how past mistakes made millennia/centuries ago, left uncorrected and projected outward can grow into major problems causing cognitive dissonance and neurosis on the whole planet at present.
When unhealthy behavior has been societally normalized, the person who becomes aware enough to point it out is villainized and gaslit, for it’s easier to blame one/make them appear crazy, rather than for many to feel the deep shame and guilt for perpetuating a lie (even if it was out of conditioning) and to take responsibility. This is how mental/emotional/spiritual growth and self-awareness are halted, compulsive liars are born, and stagnation is created. If a mistake/erroneous pattern is admitted, but no change of behavior ensues and it is perpetuated, the fear-shame-guilt loop continues to keep us hostage and prevent real growth. That’s why unhealthy habits are hard to break – true desire, discipline and determination over time are required to transcend them.
Whereas a healthy relationship with guilt and shame allows us to admit making a mistake as soon as we become/are made aware of it, take responsibility, feel the guilt and shame, self-correct, make amends, and free-flow naturally as a coherent organism. – Ava Sol
ANIMA INTEGRATION: THE MISSING LINK TO MALE WHOLENESS
A man cannot embody healthy masculinity without integrating his inner feminine.
An unintegrated anima becomes projection, fantasy, possession, fear, idolization, or avoidance. An integrated anima becomes intuition, creativity, empathy, emotional presence, and embodied depth. When a man reclaims his inner feminine, his outer masculine finally becomes trustworthy. A man connected to his anima is no longer dependent on women to supply what he refuses to cultivate within. He becomes the masculine counterpart the feminine can actually feel.
He becomes:
- the structure that holds without controlling
- the presence that leads without ego
- the lover who honors the warrior who protects without aggression
- the king who creates without conquering
Women have walked this path of integration for decades. They have faced their shadows, reclaimed their bodies, honored their intuition, and resurrected their feminine power.
Now it is the masculine’s turn.
The world needs men who feel. Men who listen. Men who are conscious. Men who are safe in their bodies. Men who are connected to God, Source, Love — not through hierarchy or dogma, but through embodiment. Men who are no longer terrified of the feminine — within or without.
“The Sovereign Man”, the 2nd book I wrote this year, is now out on Amazon.
An invitation. A transmission. A remembrance.
- Ava Sol
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