“Negative emotions like jealousy and self-doubt often arise when there is an incongruity between what you are and who you think you ought to be.”
― Charlotte Maloney, Emotional Maturity: Discover How to Control Your Emotions and Be More Mature
“There are no friends and no enemies, only teachers.”
― Charlotte Maloney, Emotional Maturity: Discover How to Control Your Emotions and Be More Mature
“Life is not about the situations you are confronted with, it is about how you confront a particular situation.”
― Charlotte Maloney, Emotional Maturity: Discover How to Control Your Emotions and Be More Mature
“you could approach each situation thinking, “there is something here for me to learn from.” This is an extremely valuable mindset if you want to emotionally mature. It brings a lens of critical reflection to all your interactions, combined with empathy for others.”
― Charlotte Maloney, Emotional Maturity: Discover How to Control Your Emotions and Be More Mature
“Emotional maturity is hard to maintain without maturity in other aspects of your life. Thus, if you are not in control of the situation, it is easy to become overwhelmed by life.”
― Charlotte Maloney, Emotional Maturity: Discover How to Control Your Emotions and Be More Mature
“Moment to moment, you are a sum of emotions and thoughts. So it is important, if you find that something makes you emotional, to step back and reflect on whether you want to fight this battle – whether or not you want to pour emotions into it. This is related to the earlier exercise of knowing what you are seeking. Those who are emotionally mature know when to fight, and when not to. If you are getting caught up in a situation, and find yourself exasperated or frustrated, take a step back. Take a few seconds to breathe deeply and assess exactly what you are upset about. Then think, is this worth the frustration? If it is not important in the grand scheme of things (however you choose to frame it), recognize that you need not devote the emotional energy towards the situation.”
― Charlotte Maloney, Emotional Maturity: Discover How to Control Your Emotions and Be More Mature
“So do not ignore your emotions. Instead, recognize them, step back to make sure they are not overpowering your ability to act, and determine how you can channel them to act in a productive manner. If you are able to do this, you will become a master of emotional maturity.”
― Charlotte Maloney, Emotional Maturity: Discover How to Control Your Emotions and Be More Mature
“By responding to the stimuli around you, you are governed by them. If you act instead, by proactively treating others with respect, maintaining a focus on adding value to your life, and choosing your battles, you will open doors that you could not have foreseen. Essentially, reacting is harmful and immature because it comes from an assumption that whatever is happening in front of your eyes represents the full set of possibilities as to what can happen. But by acting you are expressing to the world and the universe the true nature of your character, and you will attract the people and opportunities that are in line with your true nature. To do this naturally, you need to know yourself and respect yourself.”
― Charlotte Maloney, Emotional Maturity: Discover How to Control Your Emotions and Be More Mature
“Emotional maturity involves the ability to be self-aware of one’s emotions and be able to filter them before acting on them. Whether you are relatively unemotional or life feels like a constant, erratic roller-coaster, emotional maturity involves being able to respond wisely in each moment while staying true to yourself.”
― Charlotte Maloney, Emotional Maturity: Discover How to Control Your Emotions and Be More Mature
“Assertion is a habit in opposition to passivity, which prioritizes the needs of others, and aggression, which prioritizes your needs.”
― Charlotte Maloney, Emotional Maturity: Discover How to Control Your Emotions and Be More Mature
“Life moves on, whether we act as cowards or heroes. Life has no other discipline to impose, if we would but realize it, than to accept life unquestioningly. Everything we shut our eyes to, everything we run away from, everything we deny, denigrate or despise, serves to defeat us in the end. What seems nasty, painful, evil, can become a source of beauty, joy, and strength, if faced with an open mind. Every moment is a golden one for him who has the vision to recognize it as such”
― Henry Miller
“Everyone has his own reality in which, if one is not too cautious, timid or frightened, one swims. This is the only reality there is.”
― Henry Miller, Stand Still Like the Hummingbird
“Experience. Travel the path less taken. By seeing more of the world, we begin to see both how differently people live their lives as well as the underlying rhythms of life. We realize that many of these differences run only so deep. Learn something new every day. This does not mean you have to cram it into your head, remembering everything you encounter, but sit with the idea for a few minutes and consider your own thoughts on it. Your thoughts, not what you are supposed to think. By exposing yourself to new things, you broaden your understanding of what exists out there and how people think, and this in turn makes you aware of the sheer number of possibilities. The power of education is to open up the world to you, and allow you to realize that there are equally an infinite number of ways you might open up to the world. By recognizing that there are so many possibilities, you have the option of confronting situations in more productive, positive ways. Go towards your fears. This is an excellent mantra if you want to continue to challenge yourself. If something scares you, it can also be interpreted as something you have left to confront and conquer.”
― Charlotte Maloney, Emotional Maturity: Discover How to Control Your Emotions and Be More Mature
“do not try to control what others think of you. It is not your job. The ego is governed by feeding our self-importance in relation to the universe and others. But your self-worth is not defined by others.”
― Charlotte Maloney, Emotional Maturity: Discover How to Control Your Emotions and Be More Mature
“Develop an interest in life as you see it; the people, things, literature, music – the world is so rich, simply throbbing with rich treasures, beautiful souls and interesting people. Forget yourself.”
― Henry Miller
“The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware, joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware.”
― Henry Miller
“One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.”
― Henry Miller
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